The Secret To Inspiring Long-Lasting Attraction and Connection With A Man
Do you often find yourself having trouble connecting with a man?
Do you try to do all of these things to get a man to see how amazing you are… and how much love you have to give… only to be met with the bare minimum?
When you try to have the deep, real conversations with your man, do you feel yourself hitting a brick wall?
Do you often feel unheard when you try to connect with your man?
It’s so incredibly frustrating isn’t it?
How amazing would it feel to simply be able to CONNECT with your man? To connect with him on a deep emotional level. Imagine how much easier things would be, how much closer you would feel.
If you struggle with feeling disconnected from your man, or men in general, I completely understand.
I’ve been there, and I have so much compassion for you. It’s hard. You must be so incredibly strong and brave.
What if I told you that you could change this completely, almost overnight?
What if I told you that by doing this one thing, you can become absolutely magnetic and irresistible to men? That you could change your love life around overnight…
Well you can! You absolutely can.
I remember feeling as though my relationship was slipping through my fingers. It was a terrible feeling. I tried doing all of these things to make it better, but nothing I DID made any difference. And every time I tried to “talk” to him about what was bothering me, I felt like I just pushed him further away.
And while I was trying to have these “talks” I was coming from a place of fear and nervousness. I was terrified that I would say something wrong, or that if I said something, I would hurt the relationship. Crazy right?
Well, I was able to turn everything around with this ONE shift, and so can you.
Here’s the secret: A man NEEDS to be able to feel SAFE with you. He needs a safe place for him to be able to FEEL everything he’s feeling. And that starts with YOUR ability to deeply feel your emotions.
Imagine you are in the middle of the ocean, floating in the water. You have no idea where you are. You have nothing to guide you. No stars, no guide posts.. How does that feel?
Terrifying and disorienting, right?
That’s how we feel when we are lost in our emotions. And let’s be honest, how often do we find ourselves lost in our emotions? Or how often do you try to avoid and resist your emotions, and try to act all strong, like you are okay, when you’re actually crumbling inside?
This disconnect from our emotions, this inability to allow ourselves to fully feel our emotions is where the disconnect with our man comes from.
A man is able to finally connect to his heart when WE open our hearts, connect to our emotions first. Only then can we truly feel connected.
Often times when we feel something strong coming up in us, we try to put a name to it, and at the same time we are closing down our shoulders, our hearts, and trying to hold it back because, usually, it comes up at an inappropriate moment. We try to ignore them and act okay.
You want to learn to just BE WITH THEM. Allow those emotions and feelings to be there. You need to open up to your ability to feel whatever comes up for you.
SO you can create a safe place for a man to feel!!!
If he doesn’t feel you can handle your feelings, he’s not going to go places with you, because men feel just as icky as we do inside. They REALLY do.
They actually feel worse. They are filled with anger, competitive urges, feel guilty about their sex drives… They feel so much more PRESSURE in life to be significant and to provide value to this world. They feel like they are hiding all of these feelings, and so much more. They are hiding their ugliest parts, just as we do.
What men want in a woman is a woman who can see right through it! They can see that ugly stuff and go, “I can handle that. I’ve got ugly parts too, and I can handle my ugly parts. So, I sure as hell can handle yours.”
And you cannot fake this. Our emotions have a tangible frequency that can be sensed even halfway across the country. You can say you’re okay and act strong all you want, but what’s going on inside of you cannot be faked.
What will help him feel safe is not only you being able to feel your feelings as they come up, but being able to hold the space for HIM to feel HIS feelings.
It’s about being brave in the face of your feelings, and believing you are strong enough to handle any and all feelings that come your way.
The key here is when you have feelings come up, you want to FEEL them with out acting on this, or acting out on them.
How often do you get caught up in a feeling and immediately react or take action. How often do you act out on a feeling, say or do something that you tend to regret later?
Imagine being able to feel the full force of your anger at him WITHOUT attacking him, without acting out or doing something that’s going to damage the relationship? It’s quite a powerful picture right?
If you’re feeling distressed, upset, whatever… You want to be able to cry and melt down without blaming him or making him responsible - This makes him feel completely safe with you!
So, how do you do this?
If you’re a woman like me, you’ve probably spent your whole life feeling like you need to be strong and not show any emotion, so you’ve cut yourself off from your emotions. And by doing this, you’ve effectively cut yourself off from your wonderful feminine energy.
No wonder we can’t connect!!! And honestly? It’s exhausting trying to always act like I am okay. It’s exhausting always trying to be strong. It’s exhausting being in my masculine energy all of the time.
Emotions have a strong physical component and is felt in the body. You can allow the emotion to BE there without being controlled by it. You do this by simply being the observer behind the feeling.
Make it a habit to ask yourself: “What’s going on inside of me at this moment?” And just feel the energy of the emotion.
How do I do that? Well, every emotion manifests itself in your body in different ways, and often feels like tension. Maybe your throat feels tight. Maybe your shoulders feel tight and held high by your ears. Maybe you feel like you’ve been punched in the gut. Or maybe you feel the hollowness in your chest, or like someone is sitting on your chest.
I find it easier to attach it to something tangible/noticeable in my body. So if I am feeling hurt, and I feel like I’ve been punched in the gut, I do this:
Lean back.
Open your palms outward into the receiving position.
Take all of the thoughts you have spiraling around in your head and imagine them as heavy, lead balls.
Drop those thoughts down into your pelvis.
FEEL the weight of those thoughts in your pelvis.
Imagine your pelvis relaxing and expanding sideways.
Now imagine there is a silver zipper over your heart.
Unzip your heart, let it breathe
Breathe in and out through your heart.
Place your hand over your stomach, where ever you are feeling the hurt emotion.
Focus on how it feels. Tune in to it. Feel the tension in your belly. Feel the ache.
Let it be there. Let it completely envelope you.
Don’t be afraid. It’s just a feeling. It can’t hurt you.
Sink into it. Deeper and deeper.
What color is this emotion? Dark blue? Black? Red?
Imagine it surrounding you, and sink deeper into it. Give yourself over to it.
Sometimes I feel like crying. Let it out. Release it.
Now imagine you are walking through a dark, icky tunnel. The walls are cold and slimy. It’s dark, damp, musky.
Put your hands out and feel the wall, feel the slime and muck. And keep walking.
Now notice the beautiful things mixed in there with all of the muck - diamonds, gold, rubies, sapphires, precious gemstones.
They are all over the tunnel mixed in with the icky muck. Keep walking. Notice the beauty there.
You see a light at the end of the tunnel.
Walk towards it.
Step out of the tunnel and into this beautiful valley of LOVE and LIGHT.
Surrounded by beautiful purple mountains, green trees and flowers.
Feel the warm sun on your face, feel the air molecules mingling with your skin as the wind blows.
Listen to the birds singing, Maybe there’s a river nearby and you can hear the water.
Notice how you feel now.
It feels better, right? It feels a little lighter, maybe?
When I do this I am actively sinking into the feeling, allow it to be there and fully feeling it, and also taking myself through this potentially “icky” feeling, and into a more beautiful place.
Most of the time, the pain and discomfort we feel is actually our resistance to a feeling, not the feeling itself.
And if we have spent so much of our lives resisting these feelings, the idea of allowing ourselves to feel these feelings can be terrifying. We feel like we are going to lose ourselves in our emotions and feelings, but that isn’t true!
In fact, the opposite is true. We actually find ourselves and connect more deeply to ourselves when we allow ourselves to fully feel.
And there is a BIG difference between simply feeling our feelings and acting out on our feelings. It is the acting out on our feelings and being “controlled” by them, and blaming the man for our feelings that men do not like.
Here’s the thing, we don’t have to DO anything when a feeling comes up. An emotion does not require you to act out on it or to DO anything about it.
It simply requires to be FELT, and experienced.
The beautiful thing about this is the more you practice and allow yourself to feel your feelings as they come up, the easier they will be to face and tolerate. It will get more comfortable!
And soon you will simply be existing in this beautiful, emotional, feminine energy state where you’re connected to all of your feelings in your body, and therefore able to accurately express what is going on inside of you.
Your vibe will shift! Instead of being in this shut-down, rigid, masculine energy, you will be in your emotional, open, beautiful FEMININE energy, and my goodness, it is POWERFUL.
This is incredibly attractive and magnetic to a man. This is what will set you apart from every other woman out there.
He will finally be able to feel safe to be himself with you. He will see how you are emotionally mature enough to feel your feelings without making him wrong or blaming him.
All a man wants more than anything is to feel completely safe to be themselves around you. It’s our job as women to create and hold that space for him to do just that.
If you want to learn more about connecting to your feelings, being able to simply feel your feelings (not acting out on them), and shift your vibe so that you can be more magnetic and attractive to men, simply click on the link below, or email me at CoachRylea13@gmail.com. We can schedule a FREE 25 minute coaching session with me, and I can give you some more tools to help you connect with this beautiful, feminine energy part of yourself.
My Awaken Your Feminine Power program is all about learning to connect with your emotions, letting down your guard so that you can live with your heart wide-open, all of the time, and focuses on the in’s and out’s of feminine and masculine energy, so that you can completely shift your vibe and turn your love life around.
You’ll learn how to become an observer of your thoughts and feelings so that you can respond instead of react/act out on them.
You’ll learn how to break down old, destructive habits that can be keeping your from experiencing the love and connection that you want.
You’ll learn the truth about what men really want out of love and a relationship with you, and what you can do immediately to change how he treats you…
You’ll learn the secret to communicating with a man so that you feel heard, and walk away from the conversation feeling closer than ever before…
And SO much more.
So if you are struggling in your relationships and love life, if you are in pain, and you’re not sure what to do or how to turn it around, simply reach out to me and I can get you started with transforming your relationship, baby step by baby step.
You’ll feel better because you’ll gain confidence and self-esteem with the simple tools and exercises I will give you. You’ll feel more connected with yourself than you ever have before, and come into a much more relaxed, enjoyable way of being that is absolutely priceless.
It’s time to allow your beautiful, divine feminine energy to shine so that you can have the relationship you’ve always wanted.
Cannot wait to hear from you.
Love
Rylea Rose🌹