Is Your Man Being Distant?
If you’ve ever felt like your man was pulling away, withdrawing in your relationship, then you’ve likely experienced the feelings of frustration and anxiety deep in your chest and tummy.
You want to talk to him and bring him closer, but everything you do just seems to push him away even more!
This only makes you feel even more neurotic and frustrated. You feel like you’re internally freaking out and you want to rip your hair out because you want more than anything to fix it and make it better.
But you have NO idea how to bring him closer without pushing him away.
I know how you feel - I remember lying awake at night feeling like something was clamping on my heart, making it hard to breathe, wondering what was going on with a man, and feeling powerless to change anything. Almost like he was going to sleep, and I had no idea how to wake him up.
My man was being distant, hardly ever initiating contact, and it felt like spending time with me was a chore to him.
Oh, this felt terrible!
I hated feeling this way. I didn’t know what to do and I was terrified of pushing him away even more.
Does this sound familiar??
It doesn’t have to be like that for you - there’s a way to fix this!
Bring him closer with your FEELINGS!
I knew I had to do something and change the way I was perceiving everything, because what I was doing before - panicking, feeling bad, trying to make things better by doing different things, suggesting things we could do - was NOT working.
The last thing I wanted to do was sit in my icky, panicky, anxious feelings, but I knew I had to get into those feelings in order to find out how I was ACTUALLY feeling beneath all of that fear.
THE SOLVE: The Tingle
Lay down right where you are - or, get up and walk around -
Lean back (physically/mentally), breathe, drop all of your thoughts that are spinning around in your head down to your pelvis.
Relax, feel the weight of all of those thoughts down in your pelvis.
Get out of your head, unzip your heart, let it breathe, breathe through your heart.
Feel that breath going into your heart.
Imagine golden liquid up through your feet with your breath, traveling up your legs, into your vagina, up your spine, and out over your arms, to your fingertips.
Imagine that every place the golden liquid touches radiates in your body.
Let the golden liquid come up through your heart, over your shoulders, down your arms, and imagine in dripping from your fingertips down to your feet again.
Feel how every place the golden liquid touches leaves your skin feeling tingly, and warm.
Sink into the tingly sensation.
Allow it to spread throughout your body, vibrating, tingling, shimmering, you may feel a shiver run through your body. Sink into it.
With every breath you pull in the golden liquid through your feet, up your body, through your heart, over your shoulders, down your arms and out of your fingertips.
Imagine yourself surrounded in a golden glow, a golden aura.
You are radiating this beautiful, golden, warm, tingling energy.
How does that feel?
Now sink into whatever feeling you are feeling. Feel that fear, that anxiety. Where is it in your body? The tension in your shoulders? The clamping in your chest? The heaviness in your stomach?
Put your hand over that area of tension and sink into it. Let it overcome you.
Don’t be afraid. It’s just a feeling. It can’t hurt you.
See how long you can tolerate just Being in that feeling of fear, or anxiety, or sadness, etc.
Allow yourself to cry. Allow yourself to fall to your knees. Whatever!
Remember, feelings are temporary. They morph and change.
23. Tell yourself, “Even though I’m having this feeling of fear, I fully love and accept myself. And I will be okay.”
I did this. I sank into those feelings within my body, put my hand over the areas of tension that came up, often my tummy and chest, and just sat in those terrible feelings, getting used to feeling those feelings.
I quickly noticed myself feeling less uncomfortable, less panicky, and more relaxed. I continued to just BE in my feelings until I realized what I was actually feeling.
I was feeling sad, lonely, and disconnected from my man.
I wanted attention, and I wasn’t getting the attention and affection I knew I deserved.
Communicate in a heart-centered way that brings him closer!
So, I wrote a speech. In my speech, I focused on “feeling messages” and expressing how I was feeling, VERY careful to NOT make him wrong or focus on his shortcomings.
The next time I saw him, I leaned back, visualized opening my heart to him, and really got into and connected with my feelings in his presence.
He looked up at me. Then I said, “I’m feeling really sad. Things have felt pretty bad lately and I don’t want to feel this way. I love being with you. But, I have been feeling disconnected from you recently. I feel lonely, and that feels pretty crummy. I’m just a girl here. And like every other girl I need attention. When I don’t get it I feel bad, I feel turned off. I would feel so happy if we could spend more time together before you leave the state for work. What do you think?”
He simply responded. “I’m sorry. And okay, we can do that.” And that was it.
What happened next was pretty incredible.
Almost overnight, I noticed a change in the energy surrounding our relationship.
My man was being more affectionate and things just started feeling better between us! It wasn’t a huge change, but I could notice a difference.
He started to come towards me! I didn’t have to pressure him at all, he just stepped up!
What DOES work.
We believe we need to DO more in order to get the intimacy and connection that we want so badly. That we need to do something to fix whatever we feel is wrong. But in actuality, the opposite is true.
What compels men to want to be closer to you, and what men find so attractive is being a woman who is completely authentic, unapologetically herself, and speaks her truth without making it about what the man did wrong, without blaming the man for her feelings.
She owns her feelings and behaviors without acting out on them, all the while keeping her heart open to her man, being WARM, OPEN, and RECEPTIVE to his love.
She communicates her feelings in a heart-centered way that puts emphasis on her needs and how she feels in that present moment, NOT his shortcomings or what he’s doing.
This will shift your vibe away from that neurotic, insecure vibe and to a more relaxed, attractive vibe. Your man will turn around and step up to the plate if he’s been distant.
I can help you learn how to use your emotions to shift your vibe, and help you express those feelings so that your man will be drawn to you.
If he’s withdrawing, or being distant, I can teach you the tools and methods you can use that will get him to turn around, step up, and come towards you on his own terms.
The energetic shift that changes him.
When you stop trying to DO things that would pull him closer, and instead learn to just be, be in your feelings, being with him, this changes the energy that you are putting out towards him.
Instead of operating from your masculine energy and trying to DO things to make it better, you are in your Feminine energy of just Being and being present, connected to your body and feelings.
You can choose which energy you want to be in.
Any time those anxious, worried thoughts begin to buzz around your head, you go into your body and focus on what you are feeling.
And, you CHOOSE to be in the better feeling emotion!
When I stopped spinning my head, overthinking, overanalyzing, wondering what he might mean by something, and instead made it a priority to Be in my feelings, Be present, and not give those neurotic thoughts any fuel, I was able to feel better and just let those thoughts flow by.
My vibe changed!
The more I felt my feelings and connected to my heart and body, I found myself more able to effectively communicate and express my feelings.
By connecting to my body, my feelings, my heart, I was able to foster a deeper connection with my man, and I started to feel better!
I felt more confident and secure in myself, and I started to give myself more love.
The more energy I directed towards myself, the less energy I was putting out towards my man, and this felt incredible, powerful even!
Instead of me reaching out and trying to make things happen, I leaned back, focused my energy on my life, my passions, and I was able to give my man the space he needed to move towards me on his own terms.
Now, I’m in a place where I feel loved, respected, safe, and just so blissfully happy! If I could turn that around, so can you!!!
You can transform your relationship and start seeing results overnight! Once he feels that your vibe has changed, and he won’t consciously know how or why, he’ll just know that he wants to be close to you.
If you’re ready to have everything that you want in a relationship, the love, the affection, the connection, the intimacy, the passion, and the romance with a man who invests his time and energy in you…
Email me today for a FREE, personalized, one-on-one coaching session.
I can promise you that you WILL see results in your love life, and FAST. What have you got to lose?!
Love Always,
Rylea