The Biggest Secret To Communicating Your Needs To A Man...
Communicate in a heart-centered way that brings him closer!
Have you ever wished you always knew exactly what to say to a man?
How many times have you found yourself wanting to talk about something with your man that isn’t exactly an easy topic, and you have no idea how to say it without him becoming defensive, and possibly pushing him away in the process?
If you are like me, you want more than anything to be able to communicate your needs and feelings to a man, and feel heard without him going on the defensive and shutting down.
I remember feeling terrified to talk to my man about touchy subjects because I didn’t want to push him away. And when I would try, I didn’t feel heard, and he would just shut down and feel distant from me.
This lead to me keeping my feelings to myself, instead of communicating what was bothering me.
While I wasn’t “pushing him away” with the difficult conversations, I also wasn’t really connecting with him when I needed to be.
I was shoving my feelings down, convincing myself that it wasn’t as important to communicate what I wanted as long as we stayed in good, comfortable place.
But the only thing this accomplished was me feeling frustrated, disconnected, and resentful towards my man.
If me trying to communicate my feelings and what I wanted made him consider breaking up with me, was it even worth it?
The problem was that the way I was communicating was all wrong! It was essentially pushing him away.
So, how do you change that?
The secret to communicating with your man lies in your feelings!
When you speak from your gut feelings, you’re making it strictly about yourself.
You’re replacing certain words and phrases with ones that put the emphasis on your needs, NOT his shortcomings.
It’s not about what he did wrong, or what you want him to do, it’s strictly about how you are feeling in the present moment.
If you make it about what he did wrong, he’s not going to hear what you’re trying to communicate to him. He’s going to shut down!
This way of communicating signals to a man that you are a woman who can FEEL!
There are SO FEW women who can feel out there, and men are so desperate for a woman who can feel.
Because that means you can respect the way he thinks!
When you communicate this way, you’re ADDING something to the relationship, a heart centered thing, so that he can CONNECT with you!
The first steps I took.
I wrote a speech. In my speech, I focused on Rori Raye’s “feeling messages” and expressed how I was feeling, careful to not make him wrong or complain about how he was treating me.
The next time I saw him, I leaned back, visualized opening my heart to him, and really got into and connected with my feelings in his presence.
He looked up at me. Then I said, “I’m feeling really sad. Things have felt pretty bad lately and I don’t want to feel this way. I love being with you. But, I have been feeling disconnected from you recently. I feel lonely, and that feels pretty crummy. I’m just a girl here. And like every other girl I need attention. When I don’t get it I feel bad, I feel turned off. I would feel so happy if we could spend more time together before you leave the state for work. What do you think?”
He simply responded. “I’m sorry. And okay, we can do that.” And that was it.
What happened next was pretty incredible.
Almost overnight, I noticed a change in the energy surrounding our relationship.
My man was being more affectionate and things just started feeling better between us!
The more I used my feeling messages, and stopped feeling afraid that I would push him away, the easier it became for me to communicate the more difficult subjects to him.
Instead of pushing him away or him shutting down, we are able to talk about that stuff and I feel heard! I feel more connected with him in a deep, intimate way.
I was able to go from feeling terrified of discussing the tough topics with him to feeling completely secure and confident that I could communicate with him about anything!
It can happen for you too!
You can too! You can turn it all around simply by learning to speak from your heart and your feelings by using feeling statements! It’s that easy! And it WORKS, fast!
You deserve to be in a relationship where you feel secure and safe to talk to your man about ANYTHING, AND to feel heard and happy when you do!
Learn how to speak to a man in a way that fosters a deeper connection, and know exactly what to say to him in any situation.
If you’re struggling with communicating with a man, always seeming to argue, and never feeling heard, I want to help you! I want you to experience the wonderful feeling of being heard and knowing you can talk to your man about ANYTHING without fear!
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Love always,
Rylea