Stop Chasing Men! Let Men Chase You...
Are you chasing him and don’t realize it?
I know that finding a good man nowadays can feel like an uphill battle. Hell, it can even feel next to impossible!
You find yourself feeling completely out of control and at the mercy of a man. How awful does that feel?
We work so hard to find and get the love that we so desperately want to have that we end up doing the very things that actually PUSH men away!
When we are feeling anxious, or even desperate for love, we start trying to make things happen, be more available, go out of your way to please a man, be more understanding, and more of what you think he wants you to be.
This is not very attractive to a masculine energy man.
He can sense that anxious and desperate energy you are putting off, whether he’s conscious of it or not.
All this doing and leaning forward with a man feels a lot like pressure and chasing him. That’s because it is!
The truth is that high-quality, masculine energy men want to feel like they are the one pursuing and doing things for their woman!
Reaching out to him is chasing him
How many times have you met a man, you can tell he’s interested, and you hit it off. You exchange numbers and you start talking to this man.
A romantic relationship quickly develops, things are going great, you’re really connecting with him.
You start thinking this might be something real!
And then, a couple months, few months later, he backs off, withdraws. I call this the “Disappearing Man Act.”
And, it happened to me ALL of the time!
My first instinct was to start worrying, start overanalyzing everything, reach out to him, come up with an excuse to see him, try to fix it, and figure out what was wrong...
I’d text him when he wasn’t really texting me, and then anxiously wait for him to respond. I was thinking about him all of the time, trying to figure out clever ways to get him to interact with me, and initiating dates and spending time together. I felt completely at the mercy of a man!
This REACHING TOWARDS HIM energy, all this DOING and trying just felt awful, and only worked against me by pushing him away even further.
Then, he would eventually tell me that he’s not wanting anything serious, or ready for a relationship.
OR he just disappears all-together, ghosts me.
Whether I realized it or not, I was totally chasing him! I was operating from my masculine energy, in my head, trying to make things happen the way I wanted them to, always thinking about him...
Basically, I made it too easy for him!
MEN WANT TO PURSUE YOU!
It wasn’t until later that I realized I didn’t give him the space necessary for HIM to chase ME on his own terms. I was putting SO much energy out towards him that all he could do was back off!
When I figured out that the same results were coming not from my looks or my personality, but from the same decisions I was making constantly - things started to shift for me!
How do you get him to start coming back towards you?
Often times men will withdraw, pull away when they need space to figure out what they want to do with you in the long term.
And that’s okay! Men are entitled to do whatever they want, take whatever time they need to figure that out.
This is when you take all that masculine energy from thinking about him, worrying, reaching out to him, and overanalyzing things, and put it towards YOURSELF, your work, your passions, etc.
While he’s figuring all that stuff out, you go out and have fun with your friends, yourself, and OTHER MEN!
You keep playing, you keep dancing, you keep living your life, focusing on what makes you happy.
Key: You do NOT revolve your life around your man and your relationship. You make yourself, your life your priority. You don’t look to a man to meet your needs. You go out and get your needs met yourself! With whoever is presently around to meet your needs!
When he doesn’t call or respond, you don’t internally freak out. Here is what you do…
CLEAN! (This is a great one! Clean your house, your room, your closet, your drawers, your kitchen... )
Go for a run/workout!
Go dancing, or rock climbing, hiking, surfing, snowboarding, get active!
Create something! Paint, draw, write, sculpt, craft, etc.
Garden.
Take your dog for a walk.
You work on a project.
You go out and meet up with friends.
ANYTHING to help you FEEL a little bit better, that makes you happy, to direct that masculine energy towards.
You want to stop directing that masculine energy towards your masculine man.
DO NOT…
Drop what you are doing to run to him when he DOES call...
Talk about him.
Think about him.
ANYTHING to do with him…
If he’s not in front of you, or on the phone with you, he doesn’t exist.
***This is all still very much Reaching Towards him energy. You’re still energetically chasing him.***
And by doing this, you give him the space he needs to come towards you on his own!!!
Men will see that your happiness does not depend on them. That you are able to make yourself happy. Men love making you (their woman) happy!!! But they don’t like to feel that your happiness is their responsibility.
It’s YOUR responsibility to make yourself happy, to be happy.
People like to be around happy people! They have this aura, this vibration that just feels good to be around. It draws people towards them.
It’s all about your vibration.
When you are feeling good, and you raise your vibration, shift your energy, men will be magnetized by you! They will feel compelled to be near you, to be with you because it feels good!
All of that doing, chasing, thinking about him, worrying about him does not feel good!! So, if you can just STOP. Stop all of that DOING, all of that worrying, overthinking and analyzing. Stop reaching out and trying to make things happen with a man. Not only will you start to feel better, you WILL notice a change in the energy between you and your man!
Learn the seemingly innocent ways that you might be chasing a man and how to stop doing that, physically and energetically. And, when you feel your man withdrawing or pulling away, learn exactly what to do to compel him to turn around and start coming towards you again!
You never have to experience that disappearing man act again!!!
If you’re struggling with any of these things that I’ve mentioned here, I can help you. I want you to be able to experience the wonderful feeling of power and exhilaration that comes with doing these tools and methods. You deserve to find your happily-ever-after.
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Love always,
Rylea.